I quit smoking!

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Nov 212010

I’ve been smoke free for over three weeks now, yahh! PG has been especially great at rewarding and encouraging me. It helps that he has wanted me to quit since we first got together but at that time my previous other partner smoked and I didn’t want to quit.  Rewards, willpower and support have been the key. One of my rewards that we set for the first week smoke free was a dinner out and a special play scene and for  two weeks was a water bondage scene at home. We have more rewards plan for different milestones which helps when I get a craving, which are getting rarer.

After we got home, we warmed up the tub and I got in naked.  Once I was in a chest harness was applied to me, a snorkel and goggles were put on me and he quickly tied me into a hog tied. He dunked my head in and allowed me to simply float and breathe while he touched me. It was so peaceful to lie there and relax. I’m not sure how long he let me float and simply enjoy the feeling of water around me. Touch is enhanced when you are under and with your body floating, that is all I could concentrate on.

After awhile, he took the snorkel and goggles off and dunked me before I took a deep breath.  I loved being dunked and the first sensation of relaxing and then the feeling of your breath running out while you struggle before he pulls me up before it’s too late. Mmmm water bondage fun.

It was a fun scene and a perfect reward. Quitting has been a struggle and I’m glad that the hardest part is over but it still takes the effort to not smoke and fall back into it. It’s great though and I’m so happy that I’m doing it. Plus, I love the rewards that I’m receiving.

I know a couple of people who want people in their lives to quit and all I can really say is that they have to want to do it. I haven’t been smoking that long and I wasn’t a heavy smoker. I tried numerous times to quit from cold turkey, the patch, gum, Zyban, Champix (the first time) and inhaler. For various reason my body didn’t respond to them or they didn’t work into my lifestyle.  I kept trying and what helped more than anything was the positive support I felt when I failed. We tried negative consequences but that didn’t work. Positive reinforcement is the way to go. This was the right time and the support is helping so much. It feels really good to say that I quit for good.

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Water Bondage at Paradise

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Oct 052010

I went to Graydancers The Defining Moment: Getting What You Want Out of Kink class at Paradise, it’s a great class and if you have the chance to see it, I highly recommend it. I’m planning on taking what I learned and using it again in the future. During the class we deconstructed someone I knew fantasy. It was exciting, analyzing it and discussing it so it could be made into a reality. I wasn’t expecting to do the same with mine.

Since I can remember, I loved being in the water. There is something soothing about being surround in it, being weightless, floating around or pushing yourselves by doing laps. One of the first BDSM websites that I stumbled upon was Water Bondage (which sadly doesn’t update anymore), I don’t remember how many videos I downloaded and how often I would masturbate to it. I still keep some around for when the mood strikes.

We were asked to close our eyes in class and think about the first thing that came to own minds that made us hard or wet. I imaged being tied, dunked in water, helpless and being thrown around. The setting was the pool at Paradise (all that time swimming around naked left its mark) I wish I had the thought to remember to write down the discussion but what can I say other then I was distracted.

We started figuring out what would be needed for my fantasy to be made into a reality, I started getting turned on by just talking about it. As we took my fantasy and started breaking it down, it happened that Gray wanted to do it and the discussing turned more into a negotiation. After checking with the organizers, we found out that we would be able to do the scene that we had talked about. I was busy that evening so we were going to wait till the next day.

Waking up in the morning, it was chilly and cloudy which ruled out the outdoor pool but the indoor pool was still an option. The day was spent swimming, workshops and hanging out, a typical day at Paradise. After dinner, Gray and I met up and headed to the pool with T, who was a huge help and was really sweet during the scene and afterwards.

As I got undressed, there was a feeling of nervousness that overcame me briefly as I stood there naked. Once he touched his rope to my skin, I was started to relax.  He tied a hip harness on me and my arms were tied behind me. He noticed the pool noodles and worked it in between my legs and around me by using the existing rope. He walked me over to the edge of the pool where I was told to put my feet on the edge and lean forward while he held on to the harness. During that time, Gray messed with me by saying that he wasn’t sure if the pool noodles would work and created some exciting fear in my mind. The farther I leaned over, the more I excited I got as the anticipation grew.

When he let go, I fell into the water but quickly came back up. The scene was filled with lots of giggling, dunking, being thrown around, being pulled under, nipples being used as a leash and lots of other naughty fun. The rest of the hot details of the scenes are a sexy memory in my mind and those that were there. I would have loved for the scene to last longer but my arms were getting numb and I was pretty gone. I was more spaced then I thought I would be but the come down was gentle with group cuddling, delicious hot chocolate, treats and conversations.

It was a wonderful scene with Gray, a great evening with happy memories. I’ll smile every time I look at that pool.

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Water + rope = heaven

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Oct 262009

After the little bit of water bondage that we did on Friday, PG decided that Sunday would be a great day to continue where we left off. I filled up the tub with warm water before climbing in making sure the water was perfect. PG sat outside of it and ordered me to move in the positions that he desired to get the rope where he wanted them. Rope was around my breast and my hands were tied to my side.

I was told to kneel in the full tub as he grabbed my hair and dunked me under water. The water surrounded me and without him holding me down, I would float back up. He would bring me back up, let me semi compose myself, tell me to take a deep breath and dunk me again. After holding me under water for a bit, he told me to sit up and we took a bit of a break for some sexual fun until he ordered me back on my knees and dunked me again. This time he added a bit more to it. As he dunked me he reached around and started finger fucking me, adding to the hotness that water bondage already is. I was soaking wet and with the feeling of water being moved all around me and his hand keeping my pussy busy, I was on cloud nine. We continued this for a while until he told me to lie on my back and we tried dunking from that angle but unfortunately it didn’t work and a nose plug will be needed for the future.

We played in the tub for just under a hour before it was time to dry off and curl up into bed. It was perfect and I was floaty, happy and horny.

A bit more information, I realized I don’t keep count when I’m submerge as the trust is there (I wouldn’t be doing it if it wasn’t). If I do have any trouble with being under water before he pulls me up, we have safety signals but every time I let a bit of bubbles out, he pulls me up. We don’t mess around with it as we would rather play it safe then push for another 5 seconds. If you decided to try water bondage, make sure you trust the person with your life as it is in their hands,  do the proper research, have first aid training and make sure you have the strength and skill to do it. Here is a link to PG posting about his view of water bondage

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Reflections on Water Bondage

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Jan 112009

Written by PG:

(A caveat: water bondage, like any form of breath control kink, involves real risks. This post, and the last one I wrote on the subject, are descriptions, not instructions. Reading them no more prepares you to do water bondage than reading a book about someone else’s adventures on Everest prepares you to go mountaineering. Before attempting this sort of thing, research it thoroughly. The Top should have first aid training, and should refresh themselves on the protocols for dealing with near drowning. And you need to have a plan for if the bottom experiences trouble: are you big enough to get them out of the water instantly, or do you have a way to drain the water away very quickly?)

So what makes water bondage so hot? For me, it’s a couple of seemingly contradictory things.

First, it’s extreme. Stopping someone from breathing is a thing you would do in no other situation except with intent to kill. In water bondage, it’s only with intent to thrill. The bottom is literally trusting you with their life. In regular bondage, you decide how much or how little the bottom will move. In water bondage, you decide when — and even whether — the bottom will breathe. Like a lot of kink, it’s about breaking taboos. It’s intense, it’s deep, it’s dark.

At the same time, there’s a sweetness and an innocence to water bondage. It’s summertime at the beach when you were young. It’s bath time when you were little. For the bottom, it’s being helpless, yet perfectly safe, held by someone you trust. You can just let body and mind float free, not having to worry or take responsibility, because someone else is taking care of you. And if they wash you repeatedly on your naughty bits with hands and/or high-pressure hoses, it’s not your fault, because you’re not a bad girl. It’s those nasty ropes that stop you from shielding yourself.

So the dynamics of water bondage sessions can range from high-adrenaline kidnapping/torture scenarios to loving interludes with just you and your partner, where the rest of the world, for a little while at least, ceases to exist. And the really wonderful thing is that a single session can encompass both those extremes, like a piece of classical music starts out all Sturm und Drang, then melts into a soft, romantic melody. And you, as the Top, have the power and the privilege of orchestrating that piece, monitoring your bottom’s reactions, using that feedback to adjust the length of this note or that to create and eventually release tension, using the bottom’s own body as the primary instrument. You will never have a more rapt audience.

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Good clean dirty fun

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Jan 042009

Written by PG:

As Alpine’s primary play partner, I’ve contributed some quotes to some of her previous postings. I’m flattered she’s asked me to do a full guest post, and that’s she’s given me carte blanche to pick my topic. So let’s talk water bondage. I was first introduced to the idea by seeing a Gwen Media video given to me by another bi subby gal I used to play with. She’d been into it mainly because it featured lots of lovely ladies in lovely latex, but there was one scene in it that caught my eye (along with another organ). In this scene, the cruel mistress has her two female bottoms, hands bound behind their backs, kneeling at either end of a transparent plastic tub filled with water. Over the course of the scene, each bottom had their head held underwater ’til they were thrashing, and came up with water streaming down their faces and gasping for breath. My reaction was: that’s so sick, so wrong… so hot.

Over the years, Alpine and I have re-enacted this scene in private play many times. But I like to constantly surprise her when we play in public. So at a public play party a while back, I ambushed her with water bondage. I’d smuggled the tub in hidden in my oversize play bag (which I believe Alpine’s written about elsewhere.) And, since it involved a form of breath control, I’d precleared the scene with the Dungeon Monitors.

I put wrist cuffs on Alpine, and clipped them to a leather belt around her waist. I had her kneel, blindfolded her, locked a collar ’round her neck, and padlocked a chain from the collar to the frame we were playing under. I had a bi-switch female friend of ours, Mistress D, watch Alpine while I spread out a plastic tarp, then snuck off to fill the tub. This took a while, which helped build the tension for Alpine, who had to kneel, not knowing what was coming and being teased by Mistress D.

When I did return, I grabbed Alpine’s hair, and pulled her forward on her knees to just in front of the tub. “You remember how to hold your breath, don’t you?” I demanded. “Yes…” she responded, uncertainly. “Hold it now!” I commanded, and thrust her head under the surface. I held it there until I could see the involuntary struggle to raise her head begin, then lifted it just long enough to let her catch one quick breath before dunking her again. As they advise on shampoo bottles, I rinsed and repeated this process as needed (for me).

After a good long bit of this, it was time to up the game. Through regular play together, Alpine and I have thoroughly “skinnered” her pussy. (Google “B. F. Skinner” if you want more background.) That is, we’ve trained Alpine to cum on verbal command or in response to a physical stimulus. This stimulus is usually a slap to her face, but I can direct her to rewire that and cum to other cues. So I told her she was to cum when I slapped her ass. I then dunked her head, and gave her a good hard hand on her pretty butt. It was so entertaining watching her cum while not able to inhale that I repeated the process over and over again. Then we had Mistress D join in to help tag-team Alpine. The two of us took turns dunking her and spanking her to cums until she was deeply, deeply in sub space. Then we had her worship our boots (both Mistress D and I were wearing hot footwear well worthy of worship.) We also got in a few good kicks at Alpine (how to kick some one hard but safely is something I’ve learned from my dyke friends in the scene.)

As a finale, we had her on her knees, straddling our boots one by one, and polishing them with her juices, while face-slapping her to more cums.

We then took our delightfully addled bottom, dried her off, and led her to the cuddle area for some well-deserved aftercare.

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Water Bondage at Kink.com is ending

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Apr 142008

I was at my favourite web site today (Waterbondage.com) and saw this quote:

“I am sorry to inform you that this is the last waterbondage update for the time being. Look out for our tanks and other water toys on our other sites such as hogtied and devicebondage. We are using the resources to produce new sites, several of which will be available later this summer. I am now working as the kink.com in-house bondage consultant, helping to enhance our quality of bondage across all our sites. You can still join waterbondage as a non-recurring member and have access to all the shoots ever done for the site. Any questions should be directed to support@kink.com” Lew Rubens Kink.com (click here for the link)

I’ve always loved this site and this particular niche. When I first stumbled upon it, it intrigued me, turned me on, and comforted me. Since joining the site, I’ve enjoyed numerous hours of watching various shoots. From seeing water fucking machines, dunk tanks and so much more.

I’ve always had a desire to be able to visit the Armory and be able to take full advantage of all their wonderful toys whether it was privately or on camera. The website was one of those things that inspired me to try it for myself. Over the past year, I was able to do a private water bondage scene a couple of times, thanks to PG. The feeling that you get from it, the helpless, the breath play, the submission and so much more. Being dunked into the water, completely helpless was such a peaceful and hot feeling. I could go on about water bondage but I think I’ll leave it at that for now and write more about it later. It’s getting late over here.

Now its time to cuddle up with my laptop, watch some of my favourite water bondage scenes and patiently wait to see the tools on other kink.com sites. At least members will still have access to the archives and there are plenty of hot shoots to go though and enjoy.

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