I went to Graydancers The Defining Moment: Getting What You Want Out of Kink class at Paradise, it’s a great class and if you have the chance to see it, I highly recommend it. I’m planning on taking what I learned and using it again in the future. During the class we deconstructed someone I knew fantasy. It was exciting, analyzing it and discussing it so it could be made into a reality. I wasn’t expecting to do the same with mine.

Since I can remember, I loved being in the water. There is something soothing about being surround in it, being weightless, floating around or pushing yourselves by doing laps. One of the first BDSM websites that I stumbled upon was Water Bondage (which sadly doesn’t update anymore), I don’t remember how many videos I downloaded and how often I would masturbate to it. I still keep some around for when the mood strikes.

We were asked to close our eyes in class and think about the first thing that came to own minds that made us hard or wet. I imaged being tied, dunked in water, helpless and being thrown around. The setting was the pool at Paradise (all that time swimming around naked left its mark) I wish I had the thought to remember to write down the discussion but what can I say other then I was distracted.

We started figuring out what would be needed for my fantasy to be made into a reality, I started getting turned on by just talking about it. As we took my fantasy and started breaking it down, it happened that Gray wanted to do it and the discussing turned more into a negotiation. After checking with the organizers, we found out that we would be able to do the scene that we had talked about. I was busy that evening so we were going to wait till the next day.

Waking up in the morning, it was chilly and cloudy which ruled out the outdoor pool but the indoor pool was still an option. The day was spent swimming, workshops and hanging out, a typical day at Paradise. After dinner, Gray and I met up and headed to the pool with T, who was a huge help and was really sweet during the scene and afterwards.

As I got undressed, there was a feeling of nervousness that overcame me briefly as I stood there naked. Once he touched his rope to my skin, I was started to relax.  He tied a hip harness on me and my arms were tied behind me. He noticed the pool noodles and worked it in between my legs and around me by using the existing rope. He walked me over to the edge of the pool where I was told to put my feet on the edge and lean forward while he held on to the harness. During that time, Gray messed with me by saying that he wasn’t sure if the pool noodles would work and created some exciting fear in my mind. The farther I leaned over, the more I excited I got as the anticipation grew.

When he let go, I fell into the water but quickly came back up. The scene was filled with lots of giggling, dunking, being thrown around, being pulled under, nipples being used as a leash and lots of other naughty fun. The rest of the hot details of the scenes are a sexy memory in my mind and those that were there. I would have loved for the scene to last longer but my arms were getting numb and I was pretty gone. I was more spaced then I thought I would be but the come down was gentle with group cuddling, delicious hot chocolate, treats and conversations.

It was a wonderful scene with Gray, a great evening with happy memories. I’ll smile every time I look at that pool.

Sep 062010

Curling up in bed and watching the rain fall as I’m thinking about the weekend that just passed at Paradise. I seemed to crash harder than usual after this long weekend away. Being away at camp has a magic surrounding it that is enhanced more so than other conventions. You’re isolated away from the world around you and with people who are at the very least kink friendly. You don’t have to worry about finding something to cover up your fetish clothing or your naked body when heading to a workshop, dinner or just walking around. You’re not surrounded by the news and the daily life stuff that occupies your life normally. It’s a fabulous getaway.

One of the things that was reinforced from both Jim Duvall “Rape and Abduction Play” workshop and  “Defining the Moment” workshop by Graydancer was thinking and communicating about the core thing that you need to be fulfilled in certain scenes. It can be an action or a feeling but it served as a good reminder that when you are planning certain scenes to think about that, define it and communicate. I’m looking forward to thinking about some of my other fantasies, breaking them down and trying to make them a reality.

I met so many wonderful people, reconnected with friends, got to know people who I met previous better, hot play, workshops, cuddling, lots of naked swimming and hot tubing, long conversations, time by the fire, new fantasies and fulfilling one.

I’m still slowly trying to get over the drop from this weekend. I’m hoping cuddling up and watching some True Blood with a mix of blueberries and raspberries will hopefully help as tomorrow morning is going to come early and I’m sure the e-mails and in-tray are going to be stocked high after those couple of days off. I’m planning on writing more about some of my time at Paradise but right now, I’m going to take care of myself.

Sorry for being off the air for a bit, I had my first and hopefully last severe allergy attack that resulted in 2 visits to the ER, lots of drugs and treatments, cold showers and moving as little as possible. The good news is, I’m almost back to normal.

I’ll be off the air for a bit as I’m heading to Paradise Unbound in Washington state. I won’t have my computer and little phone access as roaming is expensive. If you are there, say hi. I’m looking forward to getting away, seeing friends, hot scenes and meeting new people. See you when I get back.

Sunday was our last full day of Paradise and one of the busiest days I have had in terms of play. I woke up early in the morning and headed to the camp fire to relax. I ended up talking with this guy who I will nickname WB. We ended up spending the morning together including getting to know each other better in the pool and including a tiny bit of water/breath play. It was fun hanging out and we ended up becoming friends and playing again.

I had all these plans to go to the workshops but I got caught up in other things. I made sure to check out Lee Harrington workshop, “Safer Magical Sex and Erotic Energy Exchanges”. The class was energizing and educational, I would blog about it but I don’t want to give anything away. If you are ever able to see his workshop, I would highly recommend it.

Before I knew it, it was time to play. Lady Rose and I planned to do a play piercing scene involving feathers, which we planned while still in Vancouver. It was pretty cold the previous day and Sunday wasn’t much better but we found a spot inside that allowed us the opportunity to do the scene, while not freezing the death. She planned to do the design to look like angle wings, which was a first for me. The needles were decorated with pink feathers with a tad bit of white in them. After we gathered everything we headed into the building and claimed our area. One of our friends wanted to watch as it would of been her first time watching and has always been a hard limit for her (she did a great job).

After lying down, everything was prepped and I was giggling in anticipation. I don’t know if it was because I was cold but the needles hurt going in more then usual. After all the needles were in, we went for a walk around the camp. I was absolutely glowing and actually can’t remember the rest except feeling really happy and giggly.

After the scene was over and the needles were out, we went over to an outdoor dungeon where my friend tried play piercing for the first time. It was a pleasure experiencing her first time with her and watching the whole process.

After we were done with the scenes that developed, it was time for dinner, resting and catching up. We ended up talking about what was to come in the evening and planned a fairly hot take down scene.

Unfortunately, I don’t have permission to discuss the scene but it was a lot of fun until I got hurt. I ended up spraining my shoulder by a fluke accident that we still don’t completely understand how it happened. I was lucky and had some wonderful people around me that took care of me, made me place ice on it and generally made sure I was as good as I could be. It was a complete accident and I think we were both disappointed about the way it played out. On a positive note, there is always next time and I healed from it without any complications.

Paradise Unbound was an amazing weekend, I met some great people, had lots of hot play, made my own flogger, enjoyed the meals, conversation and so much more.

See Part 1 of the entry of Paradise Unbound.

I finally had a chance to write about a fabulous long labour day weekend, 1 of 2 of entries.

Paradise Unbound was an event that I’ve heard about in the past couple of years but never attended that is hosted by the Centre for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle.  It happened to come up at a Bottoms Up night and once we heard about all the details, we decided this was an event that we had to attend.

We couldn’t go for the whole event but decided we could go from Friday to the Monday. After booking off the time off of my day job and packing, we headed down to the States. We decided to go in two separate groups due to work availability but being in the earlier group allowed us time to relax, set up camp and stop by the grocery store for some wine and snacks. After hanging out for awhile, enjoying a wonderful dinner we decided to simply relax and have some drinks. We ended up doing a bit of spanking but other then that we waited for our friends to arrive and ended to bed.

I’m a morning person and tend to be up before most people. Since I was one of the first ones to wake up, I would grab a coffee and head out to the fire to hang out and talk. On Saturday morning, Mistress Ava and I wanted to go to a flogging making workshop. I ended up getting pretty involved in it, giggling and getting all bouncy as I made the flogger throughout the day. The man who was leading the workshop was wonderful and ended up staying late to allow me to finish it. It has a beautiful wood handle and black suede tails. After the skipped meals and workshops, my flogger was done and I couldn’t wait to test it out. This was my first flogger I’ve ever made and I’m more then thrilled from the results. It will always have a special place in my toy bag and has inspired me to make more toys. I’m grateful to have been taught, help and guided on how to make one.

I couldn’t resist having some of the floggers he made and after we finished he tested out a variety of them including this massive one which must of weighed 40 pounds and packed a punch called a Bear Kiss. It was fun but I ended to rest a bit after not taking a break all day. It was time for dinner and the food was delicious and after dinner and drinks, we decided to have some fun in the outdoor dungeon.

We headed into the dungeon to play, I ended up having my brand new flogger used on me as well as a couple of Mistress Ava toys. It was a fun impact play scene including a bit of forced dancing but we had to call the scenes short as we were all really cold and it’s difficult to have a hot scene when you can’t get warmed up. We ended to the fire after that and meant up with everyone else.

Later that evening we decided to go watch some local BC friends do fire play. As I watched two others get lit up, I got more and more turned on, memorized and excited. After watching them, they asked me if I would like to play and I jumped at the chance. I’ve done fire play before but never in a setting like this and was able to try out some new things. Having the warmth of the fire against my cold skin was an experience, it tickled as it rushed along my skin and increased my own arousal. I think my favourite part of my body is when it goes on my inner thighs and brushes against my pussy.  The feeling is pure pleasure.

After I was warmed up, they placed hair mousse on my stomach. The fire would wrap around it, going around and around in the design they placed. It wouldn’t burn my skin but created a tantalizing sensation and very unique.  It’s definitely a wonderful addition to fire play.

More details to be said but it was wonderful having a scene with them, they were really sweet and safety was a priority. Watching other people including a good friend play was hypnotizing and was such a wonderful way to wrap up Saturday night before we went to make s’mores, head to the hot tub to bed.

Life has been pretty busy but a lot of fun. I really wish I had more time to blog. However, I am getting a wonderful package in the mail, which should keep me busy after my trip.

Last week, I found out that I wouldn’t be able to use the dungeon that I was renting. I was pretty disappointed ,as I enjoy renting from her. She was a great person and her dungeon was amazing.

It ended up turning out well, I found another space to rent with new equipment to try. It’s still in a great location and she seems like a wonderful person to rent from with a great reputation. If you are my friend or close client, I can provide you with more information about it and any changes that would be in effect.

I’m looking forward to this new opportunity and where it will lead me and all the fun I will have on the way. So much more to say but right now I’ll leave it at the fact that I’m really happy with how things are coming together.

On other news, I’m leaving for Paradise Unbound on Thursday. In addition to this, I’ll be going to Atlanta for DomCon in October.

I have more to write and update about however it’s time to pack for my kinky camping BDSM weekend away.

Hope everyone has a wonderful Labour Day weekend.

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