PG Birthday

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Aug 292011

I wanted to make PG birthday extra special this year and one day wasn’t going to be enough. On the Wednesday, Thai food, drinks and an after dinner cigar treat was the plan. We were in a public park so we weren’t able to do much play outside but he was able to ash in my hand discreetly.

Cigar play on PG birthday

I wanted to get down on my knees but being discreet and having it as our little secret with others around added a different element to it. After relaxing and hanging out, we headed back to my house for a shared bath. There is something sweet about bathing together, getting close in the tub and scrubbing each other clean. Afterwards, we went into my bedroom where he was able to get anything he wished out of me. We both ended up passing out together, cuddled up and enjoying the pleasure we just had.

Part of the scavenger hunt

The second part of his birthday was on Sunday. I wanted to surprise him and thought of the idea of a scavenger hunt. I picked out some gifts

from Maui Kink (who were amazing). I thought of little clues, got fancy take out containers, hide them  and left the first clue out. I asked him to arrive, open the door and go along with what he found. I ended up being able to mostly lock myself in to the bondage mittens and attach them to the bed. The final clue took him to me.

He started out with using the nipple stocks that I got him and he took it from there. I want to keep those memories between us but I ended up with a sore ass, nipples and both us with big smiles on our face. It was a very happy birthday for him and being able to make him happy means the world to me. Happy Birthday Sir.

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A wilderness weekend with PG

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Jun 172011

Relaxed, perfect and oh so happy. Last weekend was perfect. PG surprised me with a kayaking and camping trip to a local island in BC. I couldn’t wait and was jumping around, excited for days before.

View from our campsite

He took care of pretty much everything as he is an experienced kayaker and this would be my first time doing a kayak and camping trip. The trip was perfect and we were able to connect without any other distractions or obligations.  Barely any cell phone use, no landlords or neighbours to worry about or computers. Our to do list was simply each other.

The first evening was lovely with a fire being started after we set up camp. We did the traditional hot dogs and the most delicious mint s’mores while we relaxed before retiring in for the night. Sleeping naked together with him keeping me warm, simply rolling over and fucking me and using me as he wished made for a restful and happy sleep. There is something to be said about waking up in the outdoors with someone you love. I’m not sure how we pulled ourselves out of bed but we did. I was all smiley and full of cuddles and kisses as we made breakfast and enjoyed coffee.

We spent the Saturday hiking, stopping for outdoor blowjobs and upon our return to the campsite, PG set up a portable shower for us to use. It was a unique experience showering with the branches and bushes but it allowed us to stay clean while being dirty. We couldn’t wait to jump into the tent and have some fun.

During our walk

Unfortunately , there were teenagers camping close by so we had to be a bit more quiet then we wished but he was deliciously mean to me  and tested my obedience to him by making me put clamps on myself and then ordering me to take them off. It was a lovely afternoon and we both drifted off in a post orgasm bliss. We awoke to make dinner and after a lovely pasta meal that PG cooked, we enjoyed a cigar with some whiskey. It was a perfect way to enjoy an evening smoking a cigar, sharing the bench together and cuddling up. When his ash got long, he would place it in my hand. As soon as the ash would hit my hand, it sent a tingle within me. I loved being his ashtray and serving him anyway he wished.

We woke up on Sunday and I wished we could of just stayed longer but it was time to get ready to go so we could take a detour route home. I loved all the time we spent together and how much closer we feel after escaping away.

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Wonderful Weekend

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Jan 302011

This weekend was filled with fun times, pleasure, laughs and marks. It’s a bit hard to realize that the work week is ahead but at least Westward Bound is next weekend and then the move. It was a great chance for PG and I to spend quality time together with no other commitments but each other.

Saturday was a great party over at a friends house. We were able to play on this chair type thing on top of a cage. After being secured around it with rope and having my arms tied to my side, my legs were spread apart. He put one of my legs in the stirrups and tied the other to the metal bars in the windows above. We had a lot of fun with the position and the exposure that it gave. He plugged in the violet wand and would zap my inner thighs, breasts, vulva and all around varying the intensity and intervals. After warming me up, he put my collar on me after I was able to get a lot of my brattiness out. My attitude and mind frame completely changed as soon as the lock clicked. We continued to play with lots of torturing with hands and zaps from the wand.  I was a puddle afterwards and as he untied me, he put me on the ground before we retired to the aftercare area to recharge. We rejoined the party and soaked in the hot tub while socializing, perfect. We always leave his parties feeling warm and happy. Thank you again for the invite and we hope to be able to come to the next one.

After sleeping in after the night before, I was feeling so warm and cozy. We cuddled for awhile before deciding to take advantage of my hard points since they were coming down that day. PG put me into a comfy, face up suspension and let me float for awhile before he dom-nommed me and I fell into a blissful state. Time just flew by as every touch, suck and lick was enhanced. After being up and receiving pleasure, he let me spin before taking me down and resting with each other. We spent the rest of the afternoon pleasuring each other and talking about more training.

I had my collar on for most of the weekend and the feeling of being protected, loved and owned felt right. We haven’t been exploring the D/s part of our relationship lately due to having fun with other things and letting my bratty side come out and play. I believe just letting our relationship flow how it will, is the best way. Right now, it seems to be flowing back to a more D/s.

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4 years together

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Oct 312010

Halloween is PG and I anniversary and besides the party, we went out for a nice Italian dinner and spent an evening in. I can’t fully explain the impact PG has made on my life. He has always been there for me, supportive of other relationships and attractions and we have shared so much joy and happiness.  We fit together. Unfortunately, we have faced a lot of challenges that life has thrown at us but we survived it, we are stronger and both better people because of it.

I don’t think I’ve mentioned how we met on this blog. We had seen each other at an old rope and grope group but didn’t get to know each other until we went to a play party on the Ghost Ship. He came up wearing a mask, took my friend and started making out with her. I was getting ready to protect her if she didn’t want to or put up resistant as we didn’t know who it was but it turned out it was okay. She introduced us and things clicked and we decided to do some pick up play. We ended up getting sprinkles of silver paint all over us but didn’t notice until we got home. The next night was Sin Annual Halloween party and we ended up playing there too. Things seemed to click but we both were thinking that we would become play partners and have fun. As we continued to get to know each other and play, our connection grew  but I think we were both hesitant to say anything. I didn’t think with the boundaries that we would be able to be  anything other than play partners due to his other relationship but it was possible and it worked for both of us. Happy Anniversary PG.

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Coming out to one member of my bio family

Relationships
Sep 302010

This weekend my mother was visiting from out East.I decided that I was going to come out as kinky and my place offered the perfect reason to do it. I put away my toys however my equipment was still in my living room but displayed more discreetly. We were talking the first night and she was asking me why I have a wrestling mat. I answered honestly and explained that I enjoy wrestling people here. She had a strange look so I thought this would be the time to bring it up. It was pretty easy, I told her I was kinky, it was consensual and I enjoy it. I asked if she had any questions but she didn’t (or at least none that she would ask me). The only thing that she really said was mentioning that I’ve always been “alternative”. She didn’t want to talk about it so I decided not to push it.

It was easier then I thought it was going to be. I was leaning towards not mentioning it but it would of been this dark cloud over the weekend. I hope she has a better understanding of me now and she didn’t seem to pry into a lot of my personal life after mentioning it. At the very least, I was honest. I refrained from coming out as pansexual and poly as I figure I would save that for another time. One parent down and one more to go.

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A relationship technique

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May 292010

One of the session that I went to at Sex 2.0 was Kaye Porter “Off Road” Relationships. If you are ever able to see one of her workshops, I would recommend to go check it out. I got a lot out of the session and gave me things to think about in regards to my current relationships and future ones.

Trashcan by Benuski

One thing I found extremely relevant in my life is a concept she calls, hold the trash. The basic idea is to pretend you are holding a bag of trash and allow the person to get everything out without cutting in, offering advice or trying to help them at this point. All you need to do is simply ask them, “Is there anything else.” Depending on who you are doing it with, you can ask clarifying questions but you simply let the person unload.

There is a difference between using the above technique and unloading and seeking advice after. You should be specific about which one you need. Personally, I think this is a great technique. Sometimes I just need to unload, get it out and then I’m able to relax and continue on.

One example is when it comes to my day job, I typically don’t need advice from those outside of work. I like my day job but it can sometimes become too much depending on what the day has in store and what I have to see.  Before I went to the session, a co-worker and I used a similar technique to unload the stressful things that happen. It was perfect to be reminded of this and having it presented in a new light.

It would be great to be able to do this more, on both ends, to people that I’m close to in my life. I think it’s a great technique and allows people to unload when needed.

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Confirmation about hooking up

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May 212010

As most people know, I’m poly but PG and I have a special relationship. I know I’m allowed to play or date  anyone as long as if I’m safe both mentally and physically. I’m also allowed to pursue relationships of various kinds which he supports and encourages. Not to long ago, I decided that I wasn’t going to pursue anymore sexual or romantic relationships as I had a lot going on and needed time for myself. However, that time has past and if the opportunity came up and if the attraction is there, I would be interested.

On Thursday night, I was packing for Sex 2.0. I realized that PG and I haven’t talked about our sexual limits in a bit and got nervous. I’m not planning on anything in particular but you never know what will happen. After missed calls on both of our parts, I decided to send him an e-mail before I left just to make sure if something came up, if everything would be okay like we talked about before I took a break.

Luckily it was but it helped but my mind at ease. I was 80% sure it was going to be but sometimes that confirmation was just what I needed to relax and let this weekend flow.

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Another experince with compersion

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Jan 302010

I’ve been recovering and unfortunately a part of that is not being able to play with PG. We both play hard and intensely and it’s been driving me crazy that we can’t do that. PG has been great with it and has actually kept me from pushing myself when I shouldn’t. I know how I was feeling in terms of the lack of play and sex and imaged that it would probably be worse for him since he wasn’t the one recovering and was providing a lot of support and caregiving to me.

I suggested that he takes advantage of the equipment in the living room, invite over a friend of ours and play. The evening went really well, we had a chance to hang out a bit before we all went to dinner. After some delicious vegetarian Chinese dinner (so yummm) we headed back to my place. After helping them set up a bit, I kissed and hugged him and wished them both a fun time.

I took a long shower, catch up on some reading and e-mails and occasionally watched. After making sure there was chocolate for the both of them, I joined them in the living room to hang out, talk and get some cuddles as my injuries were bothering me.

Afterwards, I could see how happy he was and less stressed. It warmed me and I was happy as well.

Now just to get better. I’m hoping I’m better enough to play at MVK as we have a potential funny Olympic scene planned which will be hot, funny and oh so much fun.

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Birthday and Christmas

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Dec 202009

This weekend was just what I needed. Friends, time with PG and even some relaxing.

I had a small early birthday celebration on Friday night. My birthday falls on the 29th which makes scheduling anything difficult because of Christmas and New Years. I kept it small  this year which was perfect. There was only 6 others and it was just the right size. After a delicious sushi dinner, we came back to my house for snacks, drinks, cake and play.

It was a fun evening and everyone got a chance to play too. Catching up, sharing, joy and laughs made it a perfect birthday.  Of course, I had to get my birthday spankings to end the night.

For Saturday, I cancelled my plans and took the day to relax and catch up on some needed tasks and rest.

Sunday was a magical day. It was PG and ours Christmas celebration. I’m leaving for Ontario on Christmas Eve and we wanted time to celebrate it together. After giving him his gift, he presented me with an envelope. I already knew what was in it but this would be my first time seeing it. After reading the card and the sweet words inside, I pulled out a braided leather collar. It was beautiful but even more was the meaning behind it.

Ever since our relationship has grown and expanded into D/s,  we talked about having a collar I could wear in public and to work that would symbolize our relationship. Before Christmas, we looked around and found a discreet one on-line. It’s made of leather with a back enclosure that requires a lock.

After PG put it on me, it felt right. It’s a symbol of our relationship and how much of a role it plays in our life. For the rest of the day, we spent it together and another surprised came up. A lot of our relationship has informal in terms of D/s but we are slowly making it more formal when it feels right. Over Christmas, on separate sides of the country, he is going to prepare some written rules and the corresponding discipline if they are not followed. I will contribute my thoughts and ideas on it as well. I’m looking forward to this as we work on making our relationship more formal. It feels right and has happen naturally.

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VCH piercing ceremony

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Dec 112009

Last Wednesday night was very special. For the longest time, I’ve wanted a VCH (vertical clitoral hood) piercing but for one reason or another I never got it done.

PG knew that I’ve wanted to get it done and we were discussing that one night. It started out simple, I brought it up that I would like to do it with him there with me. Over the course of our conversations and the closer we become, the thought was mentioned to make it a special ceremony between us. As soon as I heard it, I knew it was right.

We knew we wanted it to be special and as sexy as piercing stores are, it wouldn’t of been the right atmosphere for us. We wanted it to be some place special to us. We also wanted the person who was doing the person to understand the D/s element of it and at the very least be comfortable and understanding with it. We found that with the best piercer in Vancouver who understood all of that.

The more we talked about it and waited, the more it meant. It’s a commitment to each other and to our relationship. Even though, we are both poly, we have a special relationship and bond.

After some organizing and patiently waiting, Wednesday night was here. We went out for sushi and headed back to my place for some intimate bonding before getting ready.  After setting up the sling, showering and bonding the cell phone rang and we were only minutes away.

That’s when I got nervous, this meant so much to us and was a significant act. When I get nervous (and happy) I giggle a lot. PG was great and supportive. He relaxed me, tied a breast harness on me and gave me a lot of kisses and hugs. The time came and I was in the sling, legs spread and PG standing beside me while holding my hand.

After I was cleaned, PG took the time to say some very sweet words which will remain private. It was really sweet and touching. My heart melted and feelings of love came rushing into me. It also left me speechless.

I was told to remember what this means and take deep breaths. There was a wow oh fuck when the needle went in. A couple of seconds later, the jewelry went in. I laid in the sling embracing the feelings with PG right there. The sensations rushing in me. After gaining a bit of composure, we talked about different things about the piercing such as how to clean it (urine is the fine) and about how long we would have to wait for certain activities.

The adrenaline rush hit me and I was bouncing all over the place. After saying goodbye to the amazing piercer, we spent the rest of the night together and celebrating our new commitment.

It was a magic and special night between us. The emotions, love and adrenaline was running high. This is surely a night that we will both remember and a special piece of metal in me that displays it.

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