Double team

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Jun 022011

The other week, we had a fun evening out with a friend. We went out for sushi and then back to her house for some fun. We weren’t sure how I would be feeling whether I would want to top, submit or a bit of both. It turned out I was feeling more mischievous and bratty. Exploring my topping side is new to me but I think being submissive to PG and having him order me to do things works. well. Crown let me place a breast harness on her as I wanted to get some practice in on tying someone with a female form.  Sidenote, tying a breast harness on someone with breasts is so much easier.

After tying the breast harness, PG tied her spread out to the sofa. I was being good but once she was tied, I couldn’t help but fight him a bit. We play fought for a while while he was trying to get our metal shackles on me and eventually I gave in with all the pressure points he used on me. He topped it off with putting the gas masks on me, I simply floated away. I watched as he showed her the violet wand and started using it on her. After watching for a while, I wanted to try to zap her too, it was a lot of fun. We ended up using different attachments but my favourite one was the one where I grab and the current goes into me and then whoever I touch gets zapped too. A large part of the fun is feeling the zap too and being able to be closer to the person.

It was fun being on the top side and bottom in the same scene and evening. We finished off the evening with strawberries and frozen yogourt before saying our goodbyes and heading home. It was such a fun evening and I can’t wait till next time. Co-topping is fun and thanks Crown for having us over, hope to do it again.

 

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SEAF: Seattle Erotic Art Festival

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May 282011

May is just flying by and as you have probably noticed, I haven’t been spending much time inside writing. My calendar has been busy but it’s been a great month full of fun, orgasms, giggles and more.

Last weekend, I headed down to Seattle for the Seattle Erotic Art Festival which was filled with a lot of happy memories and even some new experiences. We ended up leaving on Thursday and went straight to the Grind at the Centre. It was a fun ride down but a bit longer due to an accident before the border. I was able to see a bunch of my friends, catch up, plan evil things to do and have a fun scene with Hawk.  I wasn’t in the head space for anything really intense and my mind was leaning towards something more fun and carefree. He tied me into a box tie and put me down on this comfy bean bag chair. There was lots of pressure points used, pulling the rope into a tighter hog tied and overall just a ton of fun. It was really fun playing with him and I had a bunch of little bruises on me.  I should have wrote about it earlier as endorphins tend to mess with my memory though. There was a couple of women watching who asked us some questions after I came down a bit and it was nice talking with them and explaining some stuff while I was in a happy/dazed space. Afterwards, we hung out some more and ended up heading back to T & S house, who are dear friends that I love seeing and spending time with.

The majority of the weekend was spent at SEAF, looking at art work and hanging out. I saw many pieces that I wish I could have purchased but as a celebration for a recent accomplishment at work, I allowed myself to get one print within a certain budget. I ended up finding something at the store. I ended up purchasing this beautiful print of a female body in water with parts of her outside. It’s from Crystalline Photography and I’m looking forward to getting it framed and up in my house.

Friday was spent  hanging out with T & S, running errands with them before meeting up with Gray and his friend for coffee. We hung out there, checked out the art for a bit and then heading back to T & S to enjoy dinner, smoke a cigar and get ready for the party.

Enjoying a cigar on the patio

They have a lovely patio and it’s an enjoyable place to  have some whisky, talk, smoke and relax. There is something about enjoying a cigar with friends that fills you with warmth and relaxing smiles. It was a lovely afternoon and thanks everyone for your company.

Later that night we ended back to SEAF,  it was busier but I was able to check out more art that I wasn’t able to earlier and had a great bartender which gave me a great deal, danced and saw some people who I don’t get to see as often.

Saturday we rested a lot and had tons of downtime to hang out and catch up before heading to SEAF again. I really enjoying hanging out with both of them, I only wish we lived closer. I completely forgot what we did for food but we headed back to SEAF to browse again. Later that night, we had a group cigar smoking outside with about 8 of us. It was fun watching two, sexy girls playing with the smoke of a cigar and three of us experienced having our hands used as an ashtray for the ashes.

ashes

At first I was nervous but I put my ashes from my cigar in my own hand and then they allowed me to put my ashes in theirs.I also allowed others to put their ashes in my hands. The ashes feel warms when they are first placed on but cool down as you move them around. I would love to explore cigar service more.

I’m definitely going to need to have more cigars with me next time I make the trip down to share with others. After smoking as a group, I wasn’t feeling heading into the after party so I went with T on a drive to drop some friends off. Once we got back, I headed to the other end of the venue which was quieter and watch people get introduced to bondage.

Sunday was a more up in the air day trying to figure out when we were heading back but I ended up heading to SEAF to watch one of the short film collections called, “Let’s talk about sex.” which was a grouping of various films. There was a great one called,”Piss” and another one which I forgot the name to. I joined T & S for dinner before we headed to the SEAF afterparty at the Centre. It was enjoyable watching people play, catching up with some people I meant to this weekend and having some fun keeping someone in a cage.

Great weekend down in Seattle, my home away from home.

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Goodbye Capri Hall!

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May 132011

Last Saturday was MVK and the last night at the Capri Hall. I’ve been to most MVK’s parties there and it was also the site of the Vancouver GrUE. Lots of orgasms, giggles and screams were had there and it holds a special place for me. I’ll always have a smile every time I see the hall. It’s been the home of  MVK  since the beginning.

The evening began with a scene auction which was enjoyable to watch and PG bid on and won a scene with a sexy, female dominant for us. Of course, I’ll be the one bottoming but I’m nervous as they are both evil. I’m not sure when the date will be but I’ll just have to wait and be a good girl as PG negotiates for us.

We quickly jumped on the floor and grabbed the frame and after undressing, he secured me in a sitting position with my legs spread wide for his desires. He took out the violet wand and started zapping me but due to being chilly, it was a completely different sensation. It felt like I was getting burned compared to getting shock. The scene went on and it was a blur afterwards. We had such a great scene and curling back up at home was the perfect end.

Bye Capri Hall, you served us well and I’m looking forward to the new venue wherever it is.

 

 

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Passionate Bonds SF 2011

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Apr 092011

Last weekend was spent in San Francisco, I had a wonderful time both in the Passionate Bonds Intensive and seeing friends while exploring the city. I’m extremely happy that I made the trip down and it was worth every penny. The description from Midori website can be found on her website.

The description alone intrigued me but once I heard Dart’s Domain podcast, where he interviewed Midori and Laura Antoniou I was sold. I talked to PG and unfortunately he wasn’t able to make it but we realized it would benefit our relationship and my future ones if I went. I booked my ticket, hotel and made arrangements.

The weekend was full of learning new tools and skills, tough and challenging discussion and lots of work. It was a weekend of growth and knowledge for my relationship with PG, myself and for entering and negotiating  a future D/s relationship whether it’s for a weekend or long-term. It allowed me to define what I value, need and contribute and to put it on paper and examine it.

I’ve always know I was different and that my relationship with PG is unique. We don’t want to and can’t follow the “popular” protocols and the ways of acting. I love being bratty sometimes and play fighting which isn’t the way a “true submissive” acts or so I’ve been told. I also love serving him and being obedient, which isn’t that common to mix them both in. We needed to create our own protocols and coming to this weekend has given us the chance to start fresh and make sure the protocols we create work for us and produce that goofy smile. We created a unique mission statement for our relationship and all the protocols should serve that. I love the idea of having a mission statement and to review all these frequently. We have set up some protocols and started using them. Once we are confident in those, we want to create more. Our connect and desire is stronger. I’m considering making our own personal book with photos and text that would include our protocols, mission statement and transitional plans. We could print a new copy every year after reviewing it and updating it.

My fellow participates were incredible,  thank you! They opened up, shared and were great people to be around. I enjoyed working with them and being with them for this journey. Parts of the workshop were really hard. PG and I have already discussed what was to happen in case one of us died so when that discussion came up, I was prepared and ready to talk about it. It wasn’t as much of a  shock talking about it as the first time we did. I still remember how upset and how many tears came out of me with just the thought. It makes it easier to talk about it in advance but it’s an incredibly hard process. We first talked about it over two years ago due to our age difference and my near death experiences.

There was so much that we learned that this post could have been thousands of words however I would encourage you to go if they have another one. It’s for anyone who doesn’t want protocols just handed to them from a website, who appreciates and cherishes uniqueness and who wants an authentic, quality and hot D/s relationship. Oh and the connection, sex and play has increased when I already thought it was at the peak.

Thank you Laura and Midori for doing this intensive and asking those pesky questions.  You gave us all something that we need and thank you for sharing your skills, knowledge and yourselves.

 

 

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Event: What is Polyamory? Panel Discussion in Vancouver, BC

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Apr 072011

The “What is Polyamory? Panel Discussion in Vancouver, BC.”  is happening Monday, April 11, 2011 from 7pm-9pm at The Junction Pub at 1138 Davie Street, Vancouver, B.C. From Vanpoly, “Polyamorists practice a new form of ethical and principled non-monogamy which requires the informed knowledge and consent of all genders and practices gender equality. Polyamorous relationships can include a variety of gender combinations and sexual orientations.

This forum will provide polyamorists and those who are curious about Polyamory with an opportunity to discuss the benefits and challenges of this …growing approach to consensual multiple person relationships.
Panelists include Janet W. Hardy, Terisa Greenan, John Ince and Kiki Christie.

-Guests must be 19 years+
-Free event though donations in support of the Canadian Polyamory Advocacy Association joyfully accepted.”

Some of my friends and I will be going. If you are interested in learning more, the flyer is below.

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GrUE weekend

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Mar 152011

The Vancouver GrUE officially started on the Friday night with a meet and greet at the local pool hall. It was a great way to start to the weekend and allowed me to  meet people who I didn’t know and to catch up with friends. I was surprised at how easy it was to put myself out there and introduce myself to everyone. I can be shy but hosting made it a lot easier to just go up and talk to people who I just met. I hope I can take more of that away for other events. Apparently,  some people never saw me in this type of light and compared it to red sparkles instead of green. I think you have to know me to understand that, smile. It was a great success but I made sure to call it an early night as I knew I would need my energy for the next day.

The unconference began with doors opening at 9am after we arrived at 8am to start set up which went smoothly.  If you haven’t been to a GrUE yet, the principles are:

  • Whoever shows up are the right people
  • Whenever a class starts is the right time
  • When it’s over, it’s over.
  • Whatever happens is the only thing that could have

You can read more about the structure on Graydancer’s post, “The Care and Feeding of a GrUE.” There is also the law of two feet which basically is, if you aren’t contributing or getting anything out of what you are doing, take you two feet elsewhere.  The day started off with gathering together as Gray outlined the day and explained the principles. Before long, everyone was heading up to the front to write down what they wanted to teach or learn. Before we knew it there was a larger number of classes written on the white sheets of paper.

The classes  were:

  • Dramatic Suspension Cut-Down Experiment
  • Domestic D/s & the Art of Submission
  • Nice People, Nasty thoughts: Anti-Oppression & KINK!
  • Building Your Community
  • Somerville Bowline
  • History of Erotic Slavery, followed by
  • Slavery? BDSM Model/Language: social injustice vs. hot fantasy
  • The Not-Going-Anywhere Hair Tie
  • Kinky College: A Model for Community Education
  • Pressure Points.
  • Teaching Rope & Other Kinky Things (not taught on Saturday but on Sunday)
  • Playing with the Force (energy play)
  • Verbal Humiliation Play
  • N.O.O.C.K.I.E: Reducing Risk in the Community thru Sexy Exercise
  • Passionate Pussy Pleasure & Advanced Vaginal Play
  • Active Bottoming (not taught)
  • Discussion for partners of gender-fluid individuals (advice, questions)
  • Basic Leather Care
  • Sub-Clavian & the Scalenes Play the Brachial Plexus: Making Chest Ties More Comfy (or not, using pressure points)
  • Negotiation Roundtable: How do you do it? Want it? Even if you’re an introverted geek?
  • Foreskin Anatomy & the Male Multiple Orgasm (with video presentation)
  • Starting Up With Single Tails: From Buying to Florentine
  • Chain Bondage
  • Adjusting Play for Physical/Mental Limits (not taught)
  • Invisible Disabilities & BDSM/Kink: Developing a Tangible, Practical Tool for Discussing Access/Negotiating (not taught)
  • Simple Hip Harness leading into
  • Dirty Takedown Tricks
  • Water Bondage
  • Being Japanese: Incorporating Japanese Aesthetics & Spirituality in BDSM Play
  • The Taut-Line Hitch Hands-On Workshop
  • Tea Time with Tillie & Friends

I was able to catch bits and pieces of most of the discussions and workshops but I was also making sure everything was going smoothly and had my eyes all over the room. I did get a chance to bottom for PG water bondage workshop, which was fun. It was interesting though as usually when I demo, I can let myself go a bit but I had to fight it. One of the harder things about organizing was just keeping my hands in my pockets and let things happen the way it’s meant to. I loved the discussions and workshops that I got to saw and heard great things about them. Lunch was a success and everyone seemed to have a great time. I wish I could have wrote more but the day was a blur and it went by so fast. It took a lot out of me but in a positive way.

The day ended with the closing circle. It was a perfect way to close the space and what we shared there. We went around the circle and shared something about the day whether it was a thank you, something we learned etc. It was touching and emotional as making this happen took a lot of energy and hearing all the positive feedback hit me hard. I’m looking forward to reading the notes about what people said again. After cleaning up a bit, a quiet dinner was needed with a small group.

The party that night was MVK and as usual they did a great job. There was extra energy with the GrUE and I was able to catch up with people for a bit before finding a seat and able to talk with some of my friends for the remainder of the night while watching some hot play. I decided not to make play dates for that evening as I wasn’t sure if I would have the energy but sitting and talking fit with how I was feeling.

Sunday morning was cheap ass pancakes. I was engaged in the kitchen most of the time but it was yummy. It was nice hanging out in the kitchen in a quieter area and make sure people got the food they needed and fun conversations were had. The bacon was a hit and it didn’t last for a couple of seconds without it flying off the plate. It seemed everyone had a great time and when I took forced breaks, it seemed like people were engaged in deep, meaningful conversation. The winner of  the GRUEvy Award went to River, who is a local presenter that we all appreciate. We were also able to donate a small amount to Options for Sexual Health,which is an organization I fully support and MVK. Saying goodbyes was tough as it’s great to be surrounded by everyone for the weekend and people who you wish you could spend more time with.

After the breakfast, a smaller group of us went to a park for cigars which was needed more than I thought, it was nice to be able to relax for the first time this weekend and simply enjoy a fine cuban and great company. A mindless action movie followed before picking up food for a trip to an island.

That’s my summary of the Vancouver GrUE. It was wonderful, exhausted and I’m looking forward to doing it again in 2012. Another big thank you for Gray, PG, Tillie, Tori and Sonia  for everything.

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Eaten by a GrUE

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Mar 142011

Wow, I’ve been busy but I’m finally writing now.

I’m fully recovered after being eaten and then lovingly spit out by the Vancouver GrUE. The event was a huge success but it drained me in a way that I’ve never experienced before. This was my first time organizing something like this and being the way I am, I took a lot of it on myself. It was a fantastic event and the feedback has been overwhelming positive. I had to fight back the tears during the closing circle and from some of the messages I received. Would I do it again?  I’m already planning on having a Van GrUE 2 next year.

Waiting for the chair lift

Taking off a week from work was the way to go. After a bit of a scare at the airport dealing with customs, Gray flew in late Wednesday night and by the time we got back to my place, I was exhausted. I couldn’t go to bed without a tour of my small place and some MacAllans though. Thursday was planned as a relaxing and showing him around Vancouver day. After catching up and finalizing some GrUE details, we were off to get some Cubans cigars. Before this weekend, I’ve only had one before and it was lovely. However, my experience is limited. Luckily, we had a gorgeous female advising us on our options. I think even if I was more knowledge, I would have just let her keep talking. After stopping off at my favourite GF pizza place,  we were off to find the Lynn Canyon suspension bridge. We couldn’t find it but had a lovely drive in the forest after a google map fail and my GPS not working (I’m a transit or walking girl usually). We ended up writing that off and headed right to Grouse Mountain.

Grouse Mountain has one of the best city views, on a clear night. By the time we drove to the chair lift, it was starting to snow up there. After getting up the lift though, we could hardly see anything but snow except for a couple of views and the trees below. For the Toronto area being my hometown for just under 20 years, I’m still amazed by how excited I get by snow. We tend to enjoy it on the mountains here but not in the city. Even without the clear view, it was beautiful up there and after a bit of a power scare, we were able to enjoy drinks and dessert by the window and fire. It was a fun day and being able to relax before the weekend was welcomed.

The Friday, the morning of the meet and greet was a busy day of errands. Cupcakes had to be picked up but happily T joined us for some tacos and our big grocery trip for everything that we would need for the weekend. It was fun catching up with her before the weekend started and we were able to check out some of my favourite fetish stores in Vancouver. After shopping, the rest of the afternoon was spent relaxing and watching Gray and T record an interview for the Ropecast before the meet and greet.

The next entry I’m dedicating all to the Vancouver GrUE. I promise that it won’t take nearly as long as this one.

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Wonderful Weekend

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Jan 302011

This weekend was filled with fun times, pleasure, laughs and marks. It’s a bit hard to realize that the work week is ahead but at least Westward Bound is next weekend and then the move. It was a great chance for PG and I to spend quality time together with no other commitments but each other.

Saturday was a great party over at a friends house. We were able to play on this chair type thing on top of a cage. After being secured around it with rope and having my arms tied to my side, my legs were spread apart. He put one of my legs in the stirrups and tied the other to the metal bars in the windows above. We had a lot of fun with the position and the exposure that it gave. He plugged in the violet wand and would zap my inner thighs, breasts, vulva and all around varying the intensity and intervals. After warming me up, he put my collar on me after I was able to get a lot of my brattiness out. My attitude and mind frame completely changed as soon as the lock clicked. We continued to play with lots of torturing with hands and zaps from the wand.  I was a puddle afterwards and as he untied me, he put me on the ground before we retired to the aftercare area to recharge. We rejoined the party and soaked in the hot tub while socializing, perfect. We always leave his parties feeling warm and happy. Thank you again for the invite and we hope to be able to come to the next one.

After sleeping in after the night before, I was feeling so warm and cozy. We cuddled for awhile before deciding to take advantage of my hard points since they were coming down that day. PG put me into a comfy, face up suspension and let me float for awhile before he dom-nommed me and I fell into a blissful state. Time just flew by as every touch, suck and lick was enhanced. After being up and receiving pleasure, he let me spin before taking me down and resting with each other. We spent the rest of the afternoon pleasuring each other and talking about more training.

I had my collar on for most of the weekend and the feeling of being protected, loved and owned felt right. We haven’t been exploring the D/s part of our relationship lately due to having fun with other things and letting my bratty side come out and play. I believe just letting our relationship flow how it will, is the best way. Right now, it seems to be flowing back to a more D/s.

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Box love

BDSM
Jan 152011

One of the many things that I love about PG is his desire to push me, create new scenarios and keep me off guard.  He created a box for us to play with after he had the idea for a while from seeing it in the book, “Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns”, and I saw it on Kink.com. I love being put into the box but it’s still pretty new to me. It’s a peaceful place to be. From the moment he locks the bottom hatch, I feel surrounded. My senses are messed up due to the deprivation. There are two holes in the front, one conveniently placed for my mouth and one further up to help with the air flow, if needed.

Being in the box is a form of breath control and when it’s closed it makes me floaty fast. I have no idea what is coming at me and even though I didn’t think it would, I feel safe and loved in it. It allows me to relax, float and serve. It’s a unique creation that is special to us and allows us to float away while expanding the type of play that we love with each other.

Last Sunday, he put me in the box, caressed me and touched me when I wasn’t expecting it. His touch was increased and I felt safe. If you have any questions about the box, you will have to ask PG but it’s a lovely creation that has already created blissful memories and I can see many more to come. It is one of my favourite toys and it’s even more special since he made it.

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New Years Eve

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Jan 022011

I ended up switching New Year plans a couple of weeks before the evening. I wanted  a sober party this year without all the drinking and smoking that usually happens whether you are participating in it or not.  I wanted to try something new. S and I usually spend New Years together as each other wing women but she understood and we both made our own plans this year.

From twitter, an email, a  friend and others that I wanted to meet, I decided to go to a different party and glad that I did. It was a BDSM/sex party out in the GVA. I ended up meeting a great group of people and had a wonderful time. Due to privacy and not having the foresight to ask people if it would be okay to blog, I’m going to play it safe however there is something sexy I can share.

Shortly after midnight, the Sybian became available and I couldn’t resist a chance to ride it. I tried one 4 years and was eager to try again. The host explained how it works and some tips to help me out. She offered to either let me control it or she would. I took her up on her offer and it proved to be the right choice (plus how could I resist). After mounting it, she slowly started to increase the movement of the attachment before turning off the vibrations. At this point, I can’t remember all the details but she would direct me to squeeze, sit up etc. The Sybian is powerful and takes you on a ride where you no longer have any control. Before, I knew it waves of pleasure were hitting my body and I lost complete control after having a powerful orgasm.

One thing I’ve noticed when using a machine like the Sybian or Hitachi after my piercing is that I’m a lot more sensitive than I use to be and usually need to take a break from the stimulation to recover. I don’t remember this but apparently I jumped off once it became to intense after orgasm which doesn’t surprise me as I usually throw the Hitachi to ground once I’ve orgasmed. It was a fun ride and thank you to the person who helped it make possible.

I stayed and socialized for a while before heading back home and giving D a lift back. I’m glad that I ended taking the co-op car as it made it for a smooth ride home and well worth the expense. It was a great New Years ringing it in with everyone at the party. I’m glad that I decided to try something new and had a wonderful time with a friend and possibly new ones, hot scenes enjoyed and a sexy energy.

Happy New Years!

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