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Sep 062010

Curling up in bed and watching the rain fall as I’m thinking about the weekend that just passed at Paradise. I seemed to crash harder than usual after this long weekend away. Being away at camp has a magic surrounding it that is enhanced more so than other conventions. You’re isolated away from the world around you and with people who are at the very least kink friendly. You don’t have to worry about finding something to cover up your fetish clothing or your naked body when heading to a workshop, dinner or just walking around. You’re not surrounded by the news and the daily life stuff that occupies your life normally. It’s a fabulous getaway.

One of the things that was reinforced from both Jim Duvall “Rape and Abduction Play” workshop and “Defining the Moment” workshop by Graydancer was thinking and communicating about the core thing that you need to be fulfilled in certain scenes. It can be an action or a feeling but it served as a good reminder that when you are planning certain scenes to think about that, define it and communicate. I’m looking forward to thinking about some of my other fantasies, breaking them down and trying to make them a reality.

I met so many wonderful people, reconnected with friends, got to know people who I met previous better, hot play, workshops, cuddling, lots of naked swimming and hot tubing, long conversations, time by the fire, new fantasies and fulfilling one.

I’m still slowly trying to get over the drop from this weekend. I’m hoping cuddling up and watching some True Blood with a mix of blueberries and raspberries will hopefully help as tomorrow morning is going to come early and I’m sure the e-mails and in-tray are going to be stocked high after those couple of days off. I’m planning on writing more about some of my time at Paradise but right now, I’m going to take care of myself.

Scenes don’t always go as planned

BDSM Tagged with: PG, violet wand

Aug 062010

After not being able to play in a while, PG and I decided that we both needed a hot and rough scene. We both got everything ready and he had the advantage by putting me in a breast harness. We fought pretty hard but I was on the losing end of the battle. I put up a pretty good fight but he knows my weaknesses to well and uses them against me.

He tried to get me in the sling but I fought away for a while until he was able to get me into the sling by pulling my hair and nipples with enough force. I kept fighting in the sling but he overpowered me again and I was locked in. After slapping me around, he pulled out the violet wand but one piece was missing. He was looking around for it but the piece in between the inserts and wand was left at home. We were a bit worried at first but he remembered he had another set of inserts at home. We couldn’t help but relax and cuddle once we figured out where it most like was. It put a dent in that part of the scene for the time being. Stuff happens and you can’t take it seriously. We planned on using that toy but we ended up having a great rough scene and moved on to a caning scene that left my butt glowing.

I am looking forward to getting zapped soon.

Pride weekend: Bride of Pride

Events Tagged with: Mayhem

Aug 012010

This Friday past was Bride of Pride, which is a fun women’s party for past, present and future women. They are hosted by Canadian Mayhem, which hosts play parties and will be having another conference in May 2011.

The play party was a lot of fun and very free-flowing. I was able to see a lot of people and have the chance to catch up with them. Lots of sexy people in great outfits, hot scenes, and great conversations.

The social area and play area were mixed well together with lots of stations to play at. One of the best things I like about it, is the rules are very free and they don’t have the restrictions that other parties have. I was DMing later in the evening so I didn’t get a chance to play but walking around and watching the scenes were entertaining, hot and fun.

If you’re a past, present or future women, you should definitely check out one of their parties. I had a blast and there are so many fun and sexy people who attend.

FIRE party

Bondage, Events Tagged with: rigging, rope bondage

Jul 242010

Last night I went to a FIRE party, which stands for Female Identified Riggers Evolution. It was a lot of fun and a completely different vibe from most rope events. It was great as there was social time in the beginning and then a beginners work shop and downstairs there was a chance for people who were beyond the basics to practice everything from floor work to suspension.

We got a chance to go over the basics. My friend G graciously volunteered to be my stunt bottom as I learned and thankful helped me when I got stuck. I was very happy when I did my first chest harness on him.

One thing I noticed is that as soon as the hemp rope touched my hands, my mind was starting to get all floaty and started to wander into a more bottom space. I had to fight to stay out of it. I guess over the years, I’ve been conditioned. However, I love being conditioned that way so it will be an interesting experience trying to keep that but being able to turn it off when needed. I’m looking forward to practising more and slowly learning. Now, just to find people to practise on.

Relationship and Casual Rope

Bondage Tagged with: hemp rope, rope bondage

Jun 122010

Lately, my interest in rigging has increase. There is an pansexual event in Vancouver that is specifically designed for female riggers, which I’m looking forward to. I’m hoping that it will be a way that we can learn, practice with others and get more female riggers in the Vancouver community.

PG and I have a extensive rope kit but we use it only for us. It’s hemp rope dyed black, suits us and we both like how it stands out against my skin. It has only touched PG and I skin, which is the way it will stay. However, it does present an issue now that I’m learning how to tie. I’m debating about getting my own rope kit, picking out a different colour however I want to stick with hemp, which isn’t the cheapest. I’m thinking about picking which colour will be my play/casual one and buying a small amount and building up as time goes along. Another option is PG has a lot of natural hemp that he is willing to let me use. I think the second option might be best for me until I build another rope kit. Once, I get more advance I can make more of an investment but since I’m just starting off with the basics, it will work.

I find that when I bottom, I generally have my own hemp that I bring but it’s rarely used except for crotch ropes. The people that I have played with tend to prefer using their own rope. For other relationships in the future, I’m not sure we would have unique rope as it really depends on the relationship, connection and how we both feel about it.

It would be interesting to hear if other people have rope that is separated by relationships vs casual play or any other way that you do it.

June MVK

Events Tagged with: MVK, PG

Jun 062010

June MVK rolled around and we made sure that either PG or I would be volunteering as we wanted the night to have fun since he will be going on vacation soon. I headed out early to attended Rivers “The Care and Feeding of our Top” which was a well put together, informative workshop. If you have the chance to see a workshop by River, take the opportunity as she is a great educator. It allowed me to think of ways to maintain and grow my current relationships and helpful reminders about the power of new relationship energy along with other things.

After hanging out in the sun and grabbing something small to eat, PG and I were able to catch up for a while before we went into play. We jumped on the high blue bench and had a wonderful scene with lots of impact play including paddles, fists, kicking, leather gloves and more. It was a lot of fun and I was floating high pretty early in the scene. One of the many things that is great about PG is that he knows me so well and we have done hundreds of scenes that he knows how to get me out of my mind and into the wonderful floaty space. He let me relax, uncuffed me and lay down on the bench afterwards and relax. After I was more with it and was able to walk, we went to the aftercare tent before being social. I was still pretty floaty but PG made sure I was okay while we talked to some of our friends before calling it a relatively early night. We decided to go back to my house to cuddle and give each other aftercare but unfortunately we feel asleep together before taking part of Cane A Slut Day which is June 6th. However, we still have time today to take part.

Sex 2.0 Seattle

Blogging/Bloggers, Defining moments, Events Tagged with: Seattle, Sex 2.0

May 282010

I wrote this on the train but only got around to posting this now after adding links. I’ve been a busy girl but enjoy the post. It was a wonderful weekend.

I’m sitting on a slow train heading back to Vancouver. I was down in Seattle for the weekend attending Sex 2.0. Numerous sessions were held, new thoughts, discussions and ideas were formed. I’ll be writing about other aspects of it but right now by brain is done so I’m moving onto some social aspects and naming the sessions I went to.

After taking the train down early on Friday. K was sweet to pick me up from the train station and we went back to his and S new place. It was nice hanging out with them as it’s been way to long since I’ve seen them. We hung out and I learned more about Leather Reign which is happening in November (I’ll be posting more about it). After hanging out, catching up and grabbing some food, it was time to head back to the hotel to register and begin the night at Sex 2.0.

There were dual events going on but after showering I checked out the hospitality suite which was playing CineKink shorts and had a selection of treats. I watched a couple of them including a video about these massive balloons that are blown up and people put themselves in them halfway or fully. It was interesting to watch and I might want to try it if I got the opportunity but I wouldn’t be seeking it out. After getting my fill of shorts, I decided it was time to go change and head down to the pool party. I was pleasantly surprised that the pool was clothing optional. I dislike swimming with a swim suit (thank god for Wreck Beach) as swimming naked is so freeing. After stripping down, I went into the pool and got to know some fun people, flirted, talked and swam. Plus, what’s better then swimming naked. I headed back up to shower and my roommate for the weekend, Graydancer, came in and we checked out the hospitality suite with brownies and Crash Pad playing before crashing. He was a great roomate to have, perfect with nudity, fun and a pleasure to talk with.

The morning came early with sessions, I attended such as New Sex Educators by Ducky DooLittle and Off-Road Relationships:Expanding Beyond a Picket Fence by Kay Porter which were informative and gave me lots to think about. Lunch was a great cafe with Grace from Monopolyblog and Holden who host Hawtsome podcast, check out both of their sites. It was wonderful to meet them and to get to know them. There were lots of people who I met during the day, during sessions and on breaks including Inara de Luna, Julian Arancia, Veiled Venus, Betty Martin from Sacred Eros, Nick, Allena and many other.

After lunch, I attended, Out: The Challenges and Rewards of Being Sex Positive to Your Family, Friends, Job and Culture by Graydancer which has relevance as I am trying to come out in more parts of my life where I can. The next session was The Need For “Peermanship” In Meat-Time: Flying Your Freak Flag At Conferences, Why It’s Important to Hit On Your Peers, and How To Handle Your Conference Crushes… by Reid Mihalko which was interesting and funny. After the session, I found Scarlet Lotus who I really wanted to hang out with since I found out I was going. As we were trying to find a place to eat, we ended up running into a bunch of people from the conference and grabbed some Thai. Delicious food and great company.

In the evening there wasn’t anything officially planned with the conference but I knew that I wanted to go to the CSPC for their pansexual play party, The Edge. Others wanted to as well which turned out great. After checking out the space and familiarize myself with the rules, Gray and I negotiated a wrestling/fighting scene we talked about earlier that day. It was a fun scene but boy, he is really strong. I couldn’t even really pin him down but it was fun being able to punch, fight and get thrown around. The after scene experience was mind blowing and I’m not sure if I’m able to use her name and details, however all of us ended up staying till closing having a memorial time.

Sunday morning came too early after a late night last night, the first session was The Whore Madonna Complex in Contemporary Society with Veronica Monet and then Making Money as a Sex Educator with Ducky DooLittle, Graydancer, and Inara de Luna which provided lots of information and things to think about. Yes, No, and Consent by Sinclair Sexsmith was also well worth attending including an exercise about saying no. Later there were closing remarks, draws for raffle item, and a recap of the day.

My body was pleasantly sore from the previous night, including a sore pelvis bone and bruises that were starting to form. I went back up to the room and Gray mentioned that Maymaym was organizing people to go see Iron Man 2. It was a perfect way to take a break and simply relax and enjoy a movie. You meet so many people, new ideas, experiences, things to try that at the end of it, it’s nice to take time to do something where your mind and body can relax. I’ve added it to my list of things to do after a Con and now will suggest it to others as it really helps. Thanks Gray for the suggestion, it really helped me and helped the post con crash.

After the movie, a much needed hot bath was had and dinner. After taking some downtime I went to the Sex 2.0 afterparty at the CSPC. I got there late but it was a nice way to end the conference, hang out and talk about the weekend..

Monday I said goodbye to my roommate, went back to bed and ran into Essin’ Em at breakfast before meeting up with K and S, going out for lunch and hanging out with them before catching the train.

It was a great time at Sex 2.0 and this is only a brief post about the weekend. I know I’m forgetting some other great people that I ran into but I could write a short novel on the weekend. The weekend inspired me to start trying new things, pursuing opportunities but the best part of the weekend was the personal connections with people I knew or just met and the new ideas to pursue. Potential play dates when I come to Seattle next, thoughts to explore and planning a special event for Vancouver is only the beginning.

Here are some other posts that I could find about Sex 2.0 (I’m sure I’m missing some):

Sex 2.0 Update by Scarlet Lotus

Kink on Tap 42: Sex 2.0 by Maymay and Emma

Ropecast 5-27-10: Cream and Sex 2.0 by Graydancer

Sex 2.0: Strengthening my Web by Grace

Castle Megastore videos from some of the sessions at Sex 2.0

Let me know if I missed any.

Sex 2.0 Seattle – May 22-23 2010

BDSM Tagged with: Sex 2.0

May 142010

Who’s going to Sex 2.0? I’ll be there and I’m looking forward to meeting new people, enjoying the conference and having fun. Let me know if you are going. The press release is below.

SEATTLE – Sex 2.0 celebrates its third year May 22-23, 2010, in Seattle, Washington, at the Quality Inn. For the first time, the conference is heading to the West Coast and expanding across an entire weekend, attracting local and national influencers, entrepreneurs and enthusiasts who are defining the future of sex and technology.

Sex 2.0 focuses on the intersection of social media, feminism, and sexuality. How is social media enabling people to learn, grow, and connect sexually? How is sexual expression tied to social activism? Does the concept of transparency online offer new opportunities or present new roadblocks — or both? These questions, and many more, are addressed within a safe, welcoming, sex positive space.

Topics this year include building your sex positive presence online, using the internet to connect with people as a sex coach or educator, participatory community organizing for social and sexual freedom, the new sex educators, with panels on new media, sex work, and more.

Featuring certified sexologist and author, Veronica Monet, as the keynote speaker and a discussion leader. Other session leaders include educator, writer, and founder of Cuddle Parties, Reid Mihalko; executive director of the Center and Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, Allena Gabosch; rope bondage podcaster, author and activist, Graydancer; president of Love U Parties, author, sex educator and activist, Ducky Doolittle; author, high priestess, and founder of Temple of the Red Lotus, Inara de Luna; and many more.

The conference welcomes all sex positive individuals 18+, the GLBTQ, poly, kinky, sex workers, podcasters, eroticists, activists and more. At Sex 2.0, everyone is a participant, rather than a passive attendee, joining conversations rather than listening to presentations. Respecting the confidentiality and protecting the identities of participants who wish to maintain a degree of anonymity is a top priority at Sex 2.0.

Profits will go to the Northwest chapter of the Sex Workers Outreach Project, which is dedicated to the fundamental human rights of sex workers and their communities, focusing on ending violence and stigma through education and advocacy, and to the event producer, the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture.

Advance registration is mandatory, given the relatively sensitive nature of this event. Registration is open and tickets are $50 until May 19 or tickets sell out.

The conference is being held at the Quality Inn at 618 John St., in the heart of Seattle beside the famous Space Needle and Seattle Center. It officially runs from 9 a.m. Saturday to 4 p.m. Sunday, with parties on Friday and Sunday.

Learn more about the event and register at www.sex20con.com, or contact Clea Hersperger at sex2.0@sexpositiveculture.org for more information.

Sex 2.0 is being produced and sponsored by Seattle’s Foundation for Sex Positive Culture, a 501(c)(3) nonprofit organization that promotes the many ways sex is beneficial through education, outreach, the arts, advocacy, and research programs that serve the public. For more information, please visit www.foundationforsexpositiveculture.org.

Hands on cutting workshop

BDSM Tagged with: cutting, PG, workshop

May 082010

**Warning there is a photo behind a cut. I’m not sure if it will work in feeds. It is a photo of a cutting. Just a warning if it’s not your thing**

Last week, PG and I went to a hands on cutting workshop. I was delaying writing the post because I was waiting for photos. After talking about the design with each other, we settled on the infinity symbol for a variety of reasons. The next decision was where to place it. We decided on my right lower back because it needs to be hidden from work and some places where it won’t affect daily life.

Once we got to the workshop, I was extremely nervous. It hit me when we were in the car but I couldn’t shake it. It was a good type of giddy nervousness as this would be my first time being cut. Once everyone arrived, I became a bit more calm and PG was sweet enough to distract me by pulling my hair and calming me down.

All the safety was talk about, the technique and other things that are needed. We stencilled out the design and the cutting started. It was really intense while he was cutting and hurt quite a bit. I was getting sick but didn’t realize it till the next day and I’m not sure if it made it more so. When the scalpel cuts the skin, it’s a sharp and intense sensation.

Afterwards, I admire the photos that we took as I couldn’t see the design without mirrors or photos. We snuggled, chat and enjoyed the endorphins that were running around. Enough talking about it, a photo is below the cut.

May MVK

Events Tagged with: MVK, PG, S

May 012010

May MVK was really quiet for me. I got really sick on Thursday with a cold/fever and spent the majority of Thursday, Friday and Saturday in bed and on my couch. I was hoping to be better for the unconference but unfortunately my body wasn’t going to have it.

PG called me as he was volunteering for the whole night and was starting to feel sick too. He wanted to check in and see how I was doing and if I was feeling better. I was a bit better but didn’t want to push it though so I thought I would stay home. I wished him a goodnight and to feel better. After I hung up, I thought that I wanted to help him out and give him some support since he was starting to feel sick too. It sucks having to volunteer when you are feeling like crap. I was feeling a bit better, wanted out of the house plus S was going to MVK and I wanted to spend time with her too.

We got to MVK just before 10pm and after seeing PG, socializing, and catching up a bit, S and I decided to practice some ties together from the Complete Shibari , which was really fun. PG would come by and help us when we would get stuck and show us little tricks. I’m looking forward to doing that again.

Afterwards I hung out with PG, giving him a massage and just watching the scenes take place until it was time to go home. A bit of socializing with others and it was time to go home. It was nice car ride home, just spending a bit of time together, hugs and holding hands.

Even though it wasn’t the most action pack MVK and I was still feeling a bit sick, it was a great time socializing, learning and spending it with two very important people in my life.