After the Lee Harrington D/s Intensive weekend, PG and I started talking more about incorporating more rituals into our lives. One thing that is important to both of us, is the tasks that he gives me. We are still going to be discussing a variety of other topics that the weekend brought up but the first step is to know what we want to continue.
This weekend was Thanksgiving weekend, PG was away from the weekend and I decided to dedicate this weekend (after a fun party on Friday) to pampering myself and getting caught up. Since he knew I was planning to clean on Saturday, my tasks for Saturday was to clean with handcuffs in front of me for one hour. I have to admit, it was frustrating at times and I would end up causing temporarily pain when I would move my wrist but it was effective. The point of the task was to have a constant reminder of his control of me in my daily tasks. It was challenging and it was a constant reminder of working past obstacles and challenging myself for his pleasure.
Today’s tasks was more personal. I was ordered to write (his name) property on my thighs and something personal to be on my breast in regards to his ownership of me. I’m not sure if I’m able to reveal that so I better keep my mouth quiet for now. We just started doing this last week and I love it. The thought of a writing of ownership on me creates a warm, fuzzy feeling. It’s nice looking down and seeing it on me. I know it pleases him knowing I have this on me. It’s in a way like an invisible collar. I can’t always have the writing on me due to life, pro-subbing and dating but on the days I can, I would like to.
We will keep exploring new ideas for rituals, I love the path we are going on. It helps us feel more connected, fills me with even more warmth and love.
Once again we seem to be taking very similar steps in our relationships. My girl and I have spent the past couple of weeks discussing rituals and how they relate to our d/s relationship, and how we want to incorporate more of them into our lives.
We’re working to create a ‘sacred’ space in our home where certain objects are kept by her and that will remind her of who she is, and how we work together, along with certain tasks when she comes home that help her disengage from her busy, stressful job and ease into a different headspace.
Funnily enough, last week we were also discussing using writing on her body. It’s strange seeing our lives in some way mirrored in your own, I wish you well in your continued explorations and look forward to continuing to read of your discoveries.
J.
Thank you! You often write very interesting articles. You improved my mood.
In truth, immediately i didn’t understand the essence. But after re-reading all at once became clear.